Who is your teen really listening to?

Ask parents who has the most influence over the decisions and behaviors of their teens, and most reply: their peers. Yet, research confirms that when teens are asked who has the most influence over their actions, they overwhelmingly reply: our parents.

Despite the eye-rolling and often demonstrated (and totally natural) push for independence, middle and high school teens need their parents. Who better can provide the guidance, direction, care, love and sacrifice to guide them to adulthood?

The benefits of parent involvement are well documented-a demonstrated awareness of and involvement in schoolwork, communication with their educators, an understanding of the developmental emotional and social challenges, and the clear communication to their children of parental expectations and academic aspirations. Yet, a National Middle School Association study confirms that parental involvement too often declines during the crucial middle and high school years.

So how do you find the balance between fostering independence in your child and being the world's best helicopter?

1. Teach and model. You are your child's first teacher and most likely the person your child most admires. Set the example you wish for your child to follow.

2. Provide opportunities for reflections, discussions, and clear communications regarding boundaries, behaviors, and expectations.

3. Foster your child's strengths, talents, and interests. Give praise and support not only for your child's accomplishments but also his or her efforts.


Basically, parents keep talking because when push comes to shove your teens are listening to YOU! They just may be listening to more than what you're saying.

Welcome to Directors' Dish

Hello educators, parents, and interested parties!

The Directors of Sylvan Learning Centers of Flemington and Clinton have decided to begin a blog. We will be posting information regarding local educational trends as well as advice on our most commonly asked questions. Please do not hesitate to email with a question or a topic you would like discussed.

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